Did You Reach for Your Partner and They Weren’t There?
You may feel the loneliness of disconnection in your relationship when you need your intimate partner the most. An argument ensues and then cold silence – for days. Is it the chicken or the egg? What comes first – you feeling unseen or your feelings of anger, sadness, and fear of loss? There is disappointment and resentment with your partner and the relationship because this is not the life you dreamed of nor what was promised.
You’re both committed to your marriage, but you may feel like you are drifting and leading parallel, separate lives.
Your sex life may have started out hot and exciting. Today, you hesitate to reach for that intimate connection for fear of rejection – or name the reason. Sex was once a place for those loving feelings that sent you out into the world as unstoppable. You knew after some of the most intense moments at the office or the most non-stop day with your children, you would heal from the day’s stressors and experience a mind-body connection with your lover that evening or the next morning.
Now the responsibilities of work and the job of kiddos and maintaining the home and extended family just leaves little room to feel romantic, let alone explore the erotica. Even plans to have a date night are in the past, preferring to rest instead or argue about your sex life.
You may wonder if this is it? Is this what marriage and a long-term relationship is destined to feel like – roommates who love each other – without the sexy connection? You may feel lonelier than you thought possible in marriage.
You may be experiencing friction with your parents or siblings, and your past relationship with them. You want your partner to make an effort to ease the anxiety. The pain that you are undergoing goes unseen.
You feel lonely in your relationship.