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Meditation As the Magic Pill to Help You Get Your Sexy Best Friend Back | Couples Therapy 2022

Marriage Therapy and Meditation at As One Wellness: Couples Breathe – As One.

When my couples learn to practice the awareness of catching their patterns and connecting with their lover’s breath, their sexy best friend starts to awaken.

Couples often present with patterns that involve high stressful relating. They are arguing about everything or nothing. Frustration is in the air. Even when it’s quiet, there is internal fear, shame and guilt shouting out loud around their distressed relationship.


During this state of Fight or Flight, the body’s Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) kicks in to handle the response to the messages sent by the brain. A series of processes are initiated to handle the threat as this highly functioning part of our nervous system springs into action. If these threats are not dealt with, the SNS begins to be the primary controller of the body which results in long term physical and mental disturbances, illness, and disease – disconnected lovers.

When I weave the ancient tradition of Meditation into Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the couple experiences a more peaceful and non-threatening situation. The Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS) takes over control of the primary functioning of the mind and the body. This important aspect of our physiology is responsible for bringing the body and its processes into a state of relaxation – As One Wellness lovers.

You can think of the SNS as a “Disconnected Couple-Lonely and Stressed Out” and the PNS as the “Sexy Best Friend-Relaxed and Connected.”


Meditation is a practice where an individual trains the mind or induces a mode of consciousness, either to realize some benefit or for the mind to simply acknowledge its content without becoming identified with that content, or as an end in itself.

The term meditation refers to a broad variety of practices that includes techniques designed to promote relaxation, build internal energy or life force (qi, ki, prana, etc.) and develop compassion, love, patience, generosity and forgiveness. A particularly ambitious form of meditation aims at effortlessly sustained single-pointed concentration meant to enable its practitioner to enjoy an indestructible sense of well-being while engaging in any life activity.

The word meditation carries different meanings in different contexts. Meditation has been practiced since antiquity as a component of numerous religious traditions and beliefs. Meditation often involves an internal effort to self-regulate the mind in some way. Meditation is often used to clear the mind and ease many health concerns, such as high blood pressure,depression, and anxiety. It may be done sitting, or in an active way—for instance, Buddhist monks involve awareness in their day-to-day activities as a form of mind-training. Prayer beads or other ritual objects are commonly used during meditation in order to keep track of or remind the practitioner about some aspect of that training.

Meditation may involve generating an emotional state for the purpose of analyzing that state—such as anger, hatred, etc.—or cultivating a particular mental response to various phenomena, such as compassion. The term “meditation” can refer to the state itself, as well as to practices or techniques employed to cultivate the state. Meditation may also involve repeating a mantra and closing the eyes. The mantra is chosen based on its suitability to the individual meditator. Meditation has a calming effect and directs awareness inward until pure awareness is achieved, described as “being awake inside without being aware of anything except awareness itself.” In brief, there are dozens of specific styles of meditation practice, and many different types of activity commonly referred to as meditative practices.


  • Lowers blood pressure/slows down the cardiovascular system
  • Restores balanced function to the digestive system, aiding absorption of nutrients
  • Relaxes the nervous system
  • Relieves muscle tension
  • Diminishes intensity of headaches/migraines
  • Relieves insomnia
  • Frees the mind from self-doubt and internal chatter
  • Releases fears
  • Reduces anxiety
  • Improves depression
  • Generates optimism, self-esteem, confidence and motivation
  • Helps you get your SEXY BEST FRIEND back

Enough for today. 

Next week let’s continue to build our base on Meditation and a Mind-Body Connection to get your SEXY BEST FRIEND back.



If you are feeling lonely in your relationship, you are at high risk for an affair and a declining health and wellness. It will take time and the skill of an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist to help you learn your emotional and sexual pattern, have healing conversations and meditation that lead to the ultimate mind-body connection, as one. I’d love to help you reconnect with your SEXY BEST FRIEND.

Give me a call at (215) 532-1548 or email me at [email protected] for personalized help.

Linda Hobbs MSS, MBA, LCSW, RYT is a Mind-Body Spirit Wellness Educator and an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist in Durham, NC. She uniquely integrates the ancient wisdom tradition of meditation with scientific, evidenced-based psychotherapy to help couples connect and Breathe – As One.  Wellness.